Sunday, August 5, 2007

An acute sense of propriety is demonstrated by always knowing the wrong thing to say

If you always listen carefully when people speak to you, you will likely be very bored most of the time. If you are a member of that strange segment of the population that thinks, you will notice something during this-- maybe.

Have you noticed that some people seem to always say the right things? Right meaning situation appropriate, they've obviously had many conversations before. They never send you on a mental detour to that blocked off street where lone desperado papers and cans jiggle and sway in the wind. These conversational afficianados are one side of the spectrum of propriety. They either understand or intuit what other people are feeling and expect. They demonstrate an acute sense of propriety.

In the middle of the spectrum there are several types which are much to complicated for this humble mind to describe. I urge you to strike out into the jungle that awaits you on the other side and get into one of those conversations to learn more. In brief, some people either are not aware of situational propriety, or they just don't give a shit. Those freewheeling bastards. The latter, not the former. The former will get things right on some occasions. Maybe they just don't have much experience? I never understood them, myself.

And on the other strange, strange side of the sense of propriety spectrum are those who demonstrate their understanding and intuition by constantly saying the wrong thing. Isn't that weeeyahd? It so totally is. Why the hell would someone do such a thing? Isn't it the common goal of all people to relate to one another so that they are able build bonds of friendship which help create community which helps us do other stuff?

These strange wrong thing sayers are an enigma to most of the world. Do they think they are getting something over on us? However off puting and strange their comments and responses seem, isn't it at the same time rather amazing that they are constantly able to gauge people and situations so that can say the exact wrong thing! And with such consistency. Are they just bored? Why do they choose this strange mode of communication that sends folks-- even the most seasoned conversational afficianados-- on a trip down the street of many detours. It's a strange thing kids.

1 comment:

Feezite said...

I stumbled upon your blog when trying to get a better understanding of what "a sense of propriety" actually means. I am one of your "I don't give a shit types". I actually do care about people, but my priority is to be "real" and not a form of AI that responds appropriately to any situation. I suppose those people are more successful in commercial life than I, but I am an artist of ideas, so I'm not that concerned about that sort of success. Things come and go...the spirit lives one.